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Here's A Quarter

When Brad and I were first dating we had a conversation about money that we have referred back to many times. I was teaching kindergarten at the time and sharing my frustration about teaching the value of twenty-five cents. He pulls a coin out of his pocket and said,"Deana just hand them a quarter." I thanked him for the solution, pocketed the newly aquired quarter, rolled my eyes dramatically and said, "or 25 pennies, two dimes, and a nickel, fifteen pennies and a dime, there are many correct answers to this one question!" He grinned and playfully said, "I guess there is more to it than just a quarter. I'm glad I'm not the Kindergarten Teacher." To this day when we face a challenge and are getting frustrated during our brainstorming Brad will pop out the word, "Quarter" several times in a row and we will laugh. "Quarter,quarter" is an instant reminder that life's questions can have more than one right answer.

Recently I have been bombarded with the following phrase "My husband tries but he just doesn't (fill in the blank) the way I would with the kids." And I will even fess up to having the same thought. Funny how I know there is more than one right way to do many things but I think my way is the best. I also panic about the idea of what would happen if I was not around to raise our daughter. Sad isn't it? I married this fabulous man and I undercut (if only in my mind) his value regularly because he does something differently than I would have. I can hear my mom saying in her funny voice, "Me thinks you think too highly of yourself." I always loved that she said that in a funny voice because it cut me to the quick but made me smile at the same time.

EPHESIANS 4:4-7
"You were all called to travel on the same road and in the same direction, so stay together, both outwardly and inwardly. You have one Master, one faith, one baptism, one God and Father of all, who rules over all, works through all, and is present in all. Everything you are and think and do is permeated with Oneness. But that doesn't mean you should all look and speak and act the same. Out of the generosity of Christ, each of us is given his own gift." -The Message

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